Mene ne flattery, da kuma yadda za a bayyana adam hali daga wani m ra'ayi,

Mene ne flattery? Shin ka san yadda za ka kisa, da kuma abin da manufar yi da shi? Bari mu philosophize a bit da kũtsa a cikin duniyar tunani.

Mene ne flattery? "Flattery - fi'ili ruhohi", - ya ce almara Koko Shanel. Kuma yana da gaske gaskiya. A Bayani kamus Dahl ya bayyana cewa, flattery - yana da m yabo domin cimma burinta. Ina ganin kowa da kowa ya san cewa, amma na san yadda za a gane flattery, ba za ka dame shi da wani m fitarwa na isa yabo? Babu? Kuma ka san me ya sa? Dalilin ta'allaka a cikin tunani. Bari in bayyana.

Tunani na asali sanin tattalin arziki Maslow ta matsayi, a cikin abin da duk mutum bukatun, dangane da muhimmancin. wuce yarda da muhimmanci a gare mu:

• physiological bukatun .
• tsaro.
• na da soyayya;
• girmamawa;
• ilimi;
• ado bukatun .
• kai-actualization.

Mai talakawa mutane na iya kai sauƙi duk abubuwa banda na karshe. Amma domin gaba daya cika m, kana bukatar ka yi kokarin isa da kuma hakuri da cewa ƙarfi ne ba ga kowa da kowa.

Idan ka - ba a gane ta duk ainihi da kuma yanayi na bukatar ya, mu tunaninsu da lamirinsu hankali sami wani hanya: mu fara bayar da muhimmancin har zuwa lamirinmu nuna. A nan ya zo cikin play flattery. A ganina, daidai bayyana a kan wannan batu, Jean-Baptiste Moliere, a cikin aikinsa "The rõwa,", "Tun da babu wata hanyar, laifi ne, ba wanda ya flatters, kuma duk wanda yake so ya zama flattered."

Wannan sake tabbatar da ra'ayin cewa, wani lokaci ma m flattery aiki abubuwan al'ajabi a sadarwa da mutanen da suke jin yunwa haka domin fitarwa cewa ya so ya shagala da gargadin ciki murya magana game da insincerity. To, abin da yake flattery - mugunta ko mai kyau?

Flattery - shi ne mai cheap yabo, a cikin wasu kalmomi, ya ce da babbar murya cewa yana zaton kansa da abokin tarayya.

Menene flattery na duniya yanke shawara?

Deyl Karnegi, Sigmund Freud, da sauran sanannun masana ilimin tunani sun tabbatar da cewa kawai hanyar shawo wani ya yi wani abu - shi ne ya ba shi damar so ka yi wannan. Kuma mafi inganci hanya - wayo flattery.

Historical takardun nuna cewa duk mai girma shugabanni suka mai saukin kamuwa zuwa flattery, kuma haka wani mugun nufi da tarihin halitta nisa suna. A matsayin misali, ina so in kawo Sarauniya Victoria, na karshe wakilin Hanover daular. A lokacin da ta yi mulki da wani banbanci a kan ta yanke shawararta fassara Disraeli, wanda shi ne mafi dadi flatterer a lokacin zama na Birtaniya Empire.

Ni ba a kowace hanya karfafa ka gudanar da aiki flattery a rayuwar yau da kullum. A akasin wannan, wannan ba kyawawa. Mene ne flattery? Yana mai karya ne, wanda, kamar karya kudi ko ayyukan art, ba zai shiryar da kai ga mai kyau. Na hango zuciyar ka: "Mene ne za a yi?" Yana da sauki, da kuma, a sake, shi ne saboda mutum Psychology.

Man 95% daga cikin lokaci, hankalinsu tare da tunani game da kanka. Ya kamata ya zama kadan janye, kuma zaka iya duba a cikin m halaye interlocutor cancanci sha'awa. Feel free to magana game da su da hannunka, da shi ne a tsarkake fitarwa na wani hali, ya yi nasara a wasu wurare.

Don Allah a karanta wadannan tunani, kai da kanka ka zo ga ƙarshe cewa irin wannan flattery da ko yin amfani da shi? Kuma watakila, bayan duk, don kokarin ganin wani abu mai kyau a gare ku ban sha'awa mutane?