Personal sarari - kula da kanka da kuma girmama wasu

Personal sarari ne na musamman yankin da ya raba mu daga waje duniya. Yana da wani irin m harsashi, wanda damar ji da iyãkõkin su ainihi da kuma kare su.

A duban farko, wannan shi ne zalla dabba ilhami - designate yankin ƙasarsu, kuma a kowace hanya don kare shi daga mamayewa. Amma a wasu, wannan bukatar ne ma ba - a kayyade matakin. Kuma saboda muna da ha ma ta zamantakewa dangantaka, da masu zaman kansu sarari na mutum ne ba kawai a zahiri, spatially, amma kuma zamantakewa.

Su na sirri sarari, mu ko da yaushe "kawo tare da su" da kuma suke da matukar m zuwa bari in intruders. A cikin marigayi sittin karni na karshe wani sabon Trend - proxemics, wanda bincika ba fi'ili sakonni, wanda mutane amfani da su domin sadarwa da kewaye.

A cewar wannan ka'idar, shi ne zai yiwu a raba duk sirri sarari sadarwar cikin hudu main yankunan, da iyakoki wanda aka ƙaddara da mataki na kawance da ta wanzu a tsakanin mutane. A doka ta asali sadarwa za a iya tsara kamar haka: nisa tsakanin mutane ya dogara da kusanci tsakanin su.

1. Zone kawance

Rapprochement iya zama daga 15 zuwa 45 cm. Wannan shi ne mafi muhimmanci yankin, inda a kan iyakokin ake tsare mafi kishi. A wannan yanki da muka bari kawai ga mafi kusantan mutane, da wanda muke raba wani m ko iyali da kuma iyali dangantakar. Har ila yau, a hada su mutãne da mun kafa wani mafi m wani tunanin lamba, ko aikata mun kawai so kafa irin wannan dangane da su. To, a lõkacin da muka cikakken mayar da hankali a kan wani mutum yayin da sadarwa da shi, m su matsa kusa yadda ya kamata zuwa gare shi.

A wannan maƙil duniya, muna duk ma sau da yawa tilasta yarda a unguwan da kawance na baki - a harkar sufuri ta gwamnati, a layin a silima ko concert zauren. A daidai wannan lokaci muna da tunaninsu da lamirinsu tashin hankali saboda matsanancin kusanci na wasu. A gaskiya - shi amsa ga wani Generic memory cewa sakonni hatsari, "Ku yi hankali, wannan shi ne baƙo." Saboda haka, don kauce wa da hankula neurosis saboda rayuwa a cikin birnin, kuma ba sa zalunci zuwa ga kansu daga sauran mutane, dole ne ka madawwama ta 'yan sharudda: kokarin kada a taba mutane tsaye a kusa da, ba su yi la'akari da dogon baki, da cewa shi ne, ba su karya da asali dokoki na ba-fi'ili sadarwa.

2. A sirri kusanci Zone

Matsakaicin haduwa a cikin wannan yanki jeri daga rabin mita har zuwa 80 santimita, cewa shi ne - a cikin hannu ta tsawon. A wannan yanki da muka yarda da saba mutane da wanda ba mu da musamman na sirri dangantaka. Alal misali, wannan ya hada da mutanen da muke sadarwa a wata ƙungiya, a jam'iyyun da a jama'a events.

Mafi qarancin haduwa a cikin wannan yanki -. Don 130 cm, misali, mun sadarwa tare da abokai, ganawa da su a kan titi.

3. zamantakewa lamba zone

Matsakaicin haduwa a cikin wannan yanki zai iya zama da rabi zuwa mita biyu, da kuma kadan lamba - daga biyu zuwa uku da rabi mita. Wannan nesa yale mu mu kage sadarwa don warware kasuwanci matsaloli. Wadannan sun hada da sabis lambobi (a cikin shagon, gidan waya, da dai sauransu), tarurruka da m idon sani a daban-daban abubuwan.

4. Social Distance

Wannan zone wanzu cikin uku da rabi zuwa mita biyar daga mutum, kuma shi ne mai classic nesa don sadarwa tsakanin wani malami da dalibai, manyan qarqashinsu, malamai da] alibai.

Wannan shi ne wani abu da dangantaka kai tsaye zuwa wani dadi na sarari nesa dangi zuwa ga wasu mutum. Amma manufar sirri sarari iya zama wata zalla zamantakewa yanayi, da kuma nuna a fakaice iyakoki na mutum - da halaye, dandani, na sirri lokaci, asirin, Loneliness. Wannan yana da muhimmanci musamman a lokacin da wani mutum da mace gamu da, zauna tare, to gina iyali. Sau da yawa sosai dangantaka karya up kawai saboda daya abokin zama "da yawa", don haka wasu zo Mataki na ajiye, don jin hali iyakar sake.

Yadda za a ci gaba da sirri sarari a dangantaka, kawance da kuma 'yanci ga lumana zamani karkashin rufin daya? Da kusanci na nufin biyayya ga juna, alhakin da sha'awar taimaka ka da abokin tarayya. Kuma abin da 'yanci na nufin a cikin wannan hali?

Da farko, kana bukatar wasu lokaci zuwa ciyar baya. Alal misali, yana iya zama lokaci ciyar a kan ayukan hutu ko sirri ci gaba.

Abu na biyu, har ma a wani shared Apartment, kowane dole ne a yi da kansa kusurwa, inda za ka iya zama shi kadai.

Na uku, daya ba zai iya bukaci daga wani abokin cikakken gaskiya a duk tunani da kuma abubuwan da suka faru a rayuwarsa. Personal sarari aka keta by karanta wasu mutane ta haruffa, digging a cikin wayar zagaye agogon monitoring, inda ya ke yi, abin da ya ci da abin da abokin tarayya ana tunanin a lokacin.

Mutum sosai m ji cewa shi "bace" da abokin tarayya. Kuma a irin wannan hanya to "narke" shi ne kuma m sabili da zaɓaɓɓun nan, kuma tare da shi, da kuma kansa, to rasa a kowane lokaci domin dalilai daban-daban. Saboda haka, kada rasa kanka da kuma mutunta sirri sarari na 'yan uwa.